Facebook

I love Facebook. Probably a little too much, actually. However, I am not one of those people that will accept any old friend request. It baffles me when I get a request from someone I went to high school with that I was NEVER friends with, or someone who is friends with my husband that I have never even met. Then, there are the people I was in the Navy with. Again, like the high school dimwits, I was never friends with some of them. I understand wanting to be connected to people you served in the military with, but that's what togetherweserved.com is for. Facebook is personal people!

My most recent Facebook annoyance has been FRG members. I'm talking members that never said two words to me at a meeting, or ever even attended a meeting for that matter. A couple of them did say two words to me, but I still barely know them or they left me with a poor first impression and I don't really care to be their friend. So, then I feel bad and instead of clicking the ignore button, I just let the request sit there and marinate in case I was wrong. Stupid conscience.

All in all, if the only thing I have to complain about today is people wanting to be my friend, I guess life is pretty good. :)

Deployment Confessions

It's no surprise that deployments can change our lifestyles. We do things during deployment that we wouldn't normally do if our spouse was home. Sometimes, we may even be grateful [gasp!], for the break from our beloved mate.

I truly believe that deployments make our relationship thrive. Don't get me wrong, I miss the hell out of my husband when he's gone, but it makes the time we do have together that much more meaningful. We've all heard the saying, "Distance makes the heart grow fonder." Well, it's always best to be optimistic, so let's discuss the upside of deployments.....

My Confessions:

1. I prefer winter deployments for the simple fact that it's so nice not having to worry about shaving my legs. I can wear pants every day and don't have to worry about a frisky husband being appalled by my porcupine legs. Which leads me to......

2. Going 6+ months without sex is really pretty great; well, at least when you're a busy mom it is. I don't know if it's all that great when you actually have energy remaining at the end of the day. Don't get me wrong, my husband is great in the sack and I thoroughly enjoy our freaky deaky time, but he is a horny, horny man when he is home. I suppose it's to make up for all of the time he is away? When he is home we have sex at least 3 times a week, and most of the time I'm not in the mood. I simply lack the energy by the time the kids are in bed and we are finally alone, but I put my O-face on and please my man because I know how happy it makes him. So, yes, I enjoy the 6+ months of sex-free living.

3. Deployments are good for the ego. If I had a dollar for every time someone has said, "I don't know how you do it. You're a stronger woman than I." I'd be loaded. It's not easy playing the roll of mom and dad. It's not easy sleeping in that king sized bed all by myself every night. It's not easy to watch the news when your other half is in the Middle East. It's not easy to find 10 minutes in the day to shower between feeding the baby, taking the sick toddler to the doctor, getting groceries, taking the dog to the vet, and making sure to remember it's your week to bring the snack to the soccer game. So yes, I am quite strong. Thank you for the recognition and much needed reminder. I never get tired of hearing it!

4. There really isn't much that can beat the excitement of standing on the pier watching your spouse's ship return from deployment, or the tearful reunion that follows.


Now it's your turn. What is your upside to deployment?

Welcome!

Welcome to my new blog! I've been blogging for some time, but find myself biting my tongue all too often due to the contacts that I've made. Sometimes it's just easier to express yourself when you're anonymous. I invite you to do the same. You have the option to post comments anonymously, so take advantage of it! If you're a member of the military family, you know how stressful it can be. You don't want to complain to your hard working service member, and civilians just don't understand the lingo. What's a girl to do? If you need a shoulder to cry on or an anonymous blogger to vent to, here I am! I will absolutely try my best to respond to each and every comment. I will hear your cries, I will answer your questions. I encourage you to say what's on your mind. It will invigorate you!

I've been around the block when it comes to the military. I've been married to the military for a number of years and I'm also a veteran. The Navy is my specialty, but I'm familiar with the other branches as well. I will vent my own frustrations, but along the way I hope I will be able to help other frustrated military spouses along the way. Please don't presume this blog will be full of negativity and dedicated to bashing the military! That will not be tolerated! I love the military and consider myself so fortunate to be a member of the military family! I'm also quite the optimist. I just know that all too often there are questions that go unanswered and frustrations that are kept bottled up. My only mission is to give my fellow military spouses some much needed stress relief; the opportunity to get help from someone who's been there, who's anonymous, and who will not judge them. I guess I'm hoping to be the Dear Abby of the military world. :)

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